What To Make Of This "Unhealthy Relationship"

Hey friends,

I read an article on "Find Healing from the Emotionally Destructive Relationship", and coincidentally, Through the help God's Spirit I have been soul searching everything about me;life, relationships, e.t.c.
I observe there have been less good relationships and more 'not-so-good ones' if you know what I mean.
Well I know that God desires healthy relationships for everyone He created. However, through some nefarious means, less-than-healthy,(or worse) destructive relationships have been the lot of a number of us (believers and unbelievers alike).

So I thought it would be a good idea to discuss abit on 'Unhealthy Relationship'. I don't even know what ideas I have about it, so I am still thinking. I really would like you to reflect, and also put your contributions in the blog. As this is not a bashing forum, no name calling, and no 'the-other-person-did-it' articles are wanted. We all want to learn from our mistakes, and sharing how we have learnt, or are learning, with alot of Scriptural support will likely help everyone of us. Gratias:)

The goal is to elicit better ways (from your own experience in this short/long lifetime, and from scripture[where you can provide on, it is usually very helpful]) to improve myself, and yourselves as well. To this end, I placed a link to the article entitled "Find Healing from the Emotionally Destructive Relationship", at the end of the blog. Honestly, I should say that the article was the catalyst for this writing.

So I have tried 'loosely' to ask and provided partial answers to the term 'unhealthy relationship'. Feel free to evaluate and suggest yours.

Lets start with 'Unhealthy' : Simply put " (a)An action that is at 'variance with the written word of God. (b)what really does no true good (whether you are the one doing it, or it is being done to you). (c)What really is making life miserable, (medically and emotionally or psychologically) sick. (d)An involvement that is harmful,an action that causes pain or grief, economically unfruitful, and of no benefit to one and to society. (e)What are you blind to, that trust-worthy family, friends, close associates, are saying is doing you no honest, God-honoring good".


How about 'Relationship' : I guess it was somehow included in Unhealthy, but for the sake of attempting to describe it, you and I who read this or other article can be said to be relating (to the ideas being put forth). But I want to hone in on interactions that are repeated frequently, are prolonged, and some level of investment (time, money, emotions, fellowship, effort [physical or mental]) is expected.
With these partly clear thoughts, what then might one say is an unhealthy relationship?

Well I would try this: when something is being invested into, over and over (or for a length of time), and the actions of both investors are not helping each other grow in a healthy, helpful, godly, societally useful manner, the relationship is unhealthy.
Some people were born into an environment that thrives on unhealthy relationships, and that's all they ever knew.
Some create them through one or more 'vices' of the craving desires "envy, greed, incorrect evaluation of self, e.t.c"
Some have assimilated them as a result of trying to be noticed, wanted, liked, loved e.t.c

I bet we can give a world of possible reasons why we are or were in an unhealthy relationship.
I would like for everyone who honestly wants to know whether they are contributing unhealtily to a relationship, to read the article in the link below.

http://www.crosswalk.com/marriage/11556632/page2/

Do be honest friend, think about it...and you will find freedom in Christ Jesus.
Feel free to respond to vis blog...